Make Him Want You

Make Him Want You

An Open Letter To A Woman Who Wants To ATTRACT And KEEP Mr. Right...

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You CAN learn how to understand men and get them to be open up and understand you. You can learn how to CATCH that great guy, and how to KEEP him.

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The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It...

Through my research and personal experience, I've found that these 3 mistakes are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are:

» Mistake #1: Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"

Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?

Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.

As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:

Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.


Speaking negatively about other women.

When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you.

Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.

Too much physical contact, especially in public.

If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him.

It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.

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Try these at home!

These exercises use techniques employed by psychosexual therapists to help people get the most from their sex life. Some are to be done on your own and some with a partner - and the idea is to have fun!

Blind taste

Blindfolds and food have always had their places in sexual games, and they're a great way to bring fun and eroticism into the bedroom. Blind tastings build intimacy between you and your parnter, according to psychosexual therapist Paula Hall.

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Sign Of Cheating

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Sign Of Cheating


1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a
vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know
about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife
or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and
returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

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Source:womansdivorce.com

Top 10 Wedding Anniversary Mistakes Women Make

Top 10 Wedding Anniversary Mistakes Women Make

1.Getting married on Valentine’s Day

2.Hinting too much, making the man feel obligated.

3.Don’t go to any efforts to help plan a romantic day.

4.Expect men to read their minds on what they’d like to receive and do.

5.Think that all a man wants is sex.

6.Don’t reciprocate with a romantic gift.

7.Not preparing mentally for a romantic day.

8.Expect too much.

9.Don’t show appreciation for the man’s efforts.

10.Expect Romeo when you have acted like Roseanne all year!

The Five Mistakes Married Women Make

By Stacey L. Bradford Published: August 17, 2005

Here are five common financial mistakes married women make — along with some advice on how to avoid them.

1. Mistake: Handing Over the Purse Strings
"Ignorance is not bliss," says Patricia Powell, a CFP based in Martinsville, N.J. By not engaging in the family finances, women set themselves up for potential hardships. Powell says she has worked with at least two clients who managed their finances perfectly well while they were single, only to file for bankruptcy after they got married because of their husbands' premarital debt and extravagant spending habits.

Solution: Pay Attention to the Household Finances
Both partners should attend the meetings with insurance agents, accountants, financial planners and lawyers, says Watchung, N.J.-based Kaye. Women should also look over monthly bank statements and credit-card bills. And Kaye recommends that couples make a list of all bank and brokerage accounts and insurance policies and keep it with other important documents, such as wills and medical directives.

2. Mistake: Losing Your (Financial) Identity

When Elizabeth Lundin (who asked that we not use her real name), now 33 years old, got married six years ago, her husband offered to take over the couple's finances. She happily agreed. The couple merged all of their bank accounts, and Lundin even gave up her individual American Express card and started using a shared credit card.

Two years later, when the couple decided to divorce, Lundin learned that the couple's credit card was actually held in her husband's name, and that she was simply an authorized user. Her name was taken off that account, and she let many months go by before trying to secure credit in her name. When she tried, she found that her lack of an active credit history worked against her. She was offered only high-rate cards with small lines of credit.

According to Craig Watts, spokesman for Fair Isaac, the company that helps generate consumer FICO scores (the most common credit score used), the credit bureaus won't calculate a score for an individual whose credit history has been inactive for six months or longer.

"[Recent] college graduates had an easier time securing credit than I did," Lundin says. She says it took her two years to get a card with a competitive interest rate and sizable credit line.

Solution: Maintain Some Individual Accounts
"You always want to maintain your own credit identity," says Lisa Caputo, president and CEO of Women & Co., a division of Citigroup. She recommends that couples keep three bank accounts (his, hers and ours) and maintain separate credit cards.

3. Mistake: Walking Away From Your Career
The number of stay-at-home moms has increased by 15% over the past decade, according to 2003 U.S. Census data. While you might welcome the chance to stay home with your kids, the longer you're out of the work force, the harder it can be to jump back in. Women often face lowball wages or lower job titles when they try to return to work after a long hiatus.

Solution: Keep Your Skills Fresh
It might be hard to do when you're up to your eyeballs in dirty diapers, but unless you're independently wealthy, you should always be aware that you might someday return to the work force for one reason or another. (Kids, after all, do grow up.)
So don't lose touch completely. Try to take on consulting projects during your industry's busy season and attend professional networking events.

Even charity work can give you a leg up when you start applying for a new job.

4. Mistake: Not Saving for Retirement

Many married women don't make retirement-saving a priority. If the husband is the primary wage earner, the wife often trusts her spouse to save enough for their collective golden years, says Ginita Wall, a certified financial planner and co-founder of Women's Institute for Financial Education, a San Diego-based nonprofit dedicated to educating women on finances. Compounding the problem, women are more likely than men to blow what little savings they have on something other than retirement. Nearly 25% of women who take a lump sum distribution from a retirement plan spend the money on general consumption, vs. 19% of men, according to the Employment Benefit Research Institute.

A woman spending her retirement savings is particularly distressing considering that women, on average, live six years longer than men.

Solution: Penny-Pinch Now for Your Future

Make saving for retirement a priority, says Women & Co.'s Caputo, even if it means stashing away less for your children's college education. If you're working, save as much as you can in your company's retirement plan, or in an IRA. If you're not employed, contribute to a spousal IRA, which has an annual contribution cap of $4,000 in 2005. Click here for more on these accounts.

5. Mistake: Asking for the House During a Divorce

When Borden separated from her husband, she decided her priority was to get custody of her two children. So she hired the best child custody lawyer she could find. Looking back, she says she now regrets her decision to focus on just one issue and wishes she had found a lawyer who had also looked out for her financial well-being. While she succeeded in getting custody of the kids, she is now struggling on the meager child-support payments her lawyer negotiated for her.

Borden's story isn't unusual. Women often focus so intently on winning custody of the children or keeping the house that they lose sight of the bigger financial picture, says Wife.org's Wall. On average, a woman's standard of living decreases by 27% after divorce, according to Richard Peterson, of the Social Science Research Council.

Solution: Get Financial Guidance

When women are going through a divorce, they need to determine which assets will help them pay their bills and reach their long-term goals. Some women might want to consult a financial planner, says Wife.org's Wall. Too many women, says Wall, fight for the home to avoid uprooting their children, only to find that they don't have the cash flow to pay for it.

Five mistakes women make in bed

by sex expert Tracey Cox

Hot - or hopeless? Find out how you rate as a lover and pray you're not guilty of any of these...

1. We don't know enough about sex – or his bits.

'She goes all giggly and girly whenever I try to talk to her about how to touch and excite me. She thinks it's cute but I find it insulting that not only wouldn't she have the first clue about how my penis works, she's got no interest in finding out.'
He's right – you do need to know some basic anatomy. While it's true that what worked with Barry won't necessarily work with Brian, our genitals are all wired up the same way and most of us have the same hot spots. Sex is a bit like typing. We can all sit down in front of a computer keyboard and bash something out using two fingers. But you're never going to be as good as the person who uses 10 and took the touch-typing course. Buy a good sex book and study it. Once you've got the basic biology figured, combine it with 'field research' – touching and testing the areas that are meant to feel good when stimulated – and you're bound to be a better lover than the girl who's stuck at the point-and-giggle-at-his-dangly-bits stage.

2. We expect men to be mind-readers.

'I asked if she'd had an orgasm and she said no. I asked her why and she said 'Because I felt like oral sex and you didn't give me any. If you really loved me, you'd have known that was what I wanted'.

Sorry girls but again, I'm on his side. Expecting your lover to second-guess your every desire is rubbish. Just because someone knows you well and wants to please you, doesn't mean they suddenly have access to a crystal ball. Plenty of women think their lover comes equipped with an amazing radar which allows him to know exactly what she's in the mood for at that exact moment with absolutely no input from her. Well, speak up or forever lie back and think of England.

3. We only seem to like sex at the beginning. Once the relationship is serious, we lose interest.

'It's been the same with every girlfriend I've ever had. They're all over you in the beginning but stop wanting it at all once you've been together for a while.'
Some guys think it means we're just not interested in sex at all. We fake it in the beginning until we've 'got him', then drop the act. I think there's a far less sinister and more logical reason to explain it. Women get bored with sex if it becomes predictable. And if we're bored, it's hard for us to orgasm because we need a lot more mental and physical stimulation than he does to topple us over the edge.

I admit, it's not the healthiest of attitudes but it is understandable. Most people wouldn't dream of sitting down to the same meal every single night of their life yet most couples follow the same routine every single time they have sex. Vary just one thing every time you have sex. It might be a different position. A new room. The lights on or off. You might be dressed, half-dressed or completely naked. Music on, music off. It's easy! It takes little imagination but works wonders.

4. We leave it all up to him.

'Q: What's the difference between making love to your long-term girlfriend and eating a bowl of spaghetti? A: At least the spaghetti moves so you know it's alive.'
Some women think it's not only his job to initiate sex, it's his job to do all the work during it as well. You want to be able to be the boss in the boardroom? Well, take some responsibility in the bedroom as well. It's a cop out to expect him to do everything while you just lie there. Take the lead by seducing him occasionally. You take control during foreplay. You jump on top of him for intercourse, rather than the other way around. If you want to really impress him, initiate sex when he least expects it (anytime except when you're both turning in for the night).

5. We're too paranoid about our bodies to enjoy sex.

'She hates side-by-side sex because it makes her tummy look fat. She won't get on top because she's worried her breasts will look funny. She won't even go to the loo unless I promise not to look at her bottom.'

Most men aren't as fussy about body shape as we think they are. The truth is – and it's been proven over and over again – our idea of a perfect body isn't his. A few extra pounds (which mean the world to us), add the curves that men find really sexy. They don't think 'fat' and 'lumpy'. They think soft, warm, female and voluptuous.

If you're jumping into bed worried about your body, it stands to reason your sex life will suffer. In a US survey, women with a positive body image said they had orgasms 73 percent of the time. Self-conscious women reached orgasm only 42 percent of the time. Sex is all about what's happening inside, not outside. If you're desperately trying to suck your stomach in, you're not mentally tuning into being turned on. Being a good lover is about feeling confident.

Feel sexy and you'll be it!

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11 "Don't-Tell-the-Husband" Secrets All Women Keep

11 "Don't-Tell-the-Husband" Secrets All Women Keep
By Jeannie Kim

We women are well aware that most of the time we're a profound mystery to men. And for the most part, we like it that way. But the thought has occurred to just about every woman: Would it really be so bad if he knew _________ about me? Wouldn't it help him understand me better? And more importantly, Wouldn't he annoy me less if he knew what I really wanted?

So for the benefit of women everywhere (and for your benefit too, guys—remember, a happy woman makes for a much happier man), we're going to let men in on a little of what really makes us tick, deep down. Read on for 11 near-universal secrets of womankind. Some may shock you, others may be things you've suspected for a long time (but never had the nerve to ask about). But know this: the woman in your life?

She's hiding more secrets than these, including a few you'd never imagine. Lucky you—you get to spend a lifetime learning them all.

1. Everything we buy for ourselves—shoes, a skirt, even just stuff from the drugstore—really costs 20 percent more than we tell you it did.
Just because it's a classic sitcom plot doesn't mean it isn't true. "Sometimes I'll buy an outfit and charge half of it on our credit card and pay for the other half in cash so my husband doesn't know what I'm actually spending," admits one 32-year-old, who requested anonymity to protect her sneaky secret. Yeah, we know honesty is the best policy, hiding your spending habits is bad, blah blah blah. But sometimes we just don't want the hassle of arguing over the price of the fancy shampoo. Is that so wrong? We don't think so.

2. We actually think about sex—with you!—a lot.

Sometimes we think about it all day long. It's just that by the end of the day we're too damn tired to do anything about it. Now, if you could only catch us at lunchtime…

3. We're just as nervous about commitment as you are.

True, many girls grow up dreaming of Prince Charming, the white wedding, and happily ever after. But we're human, just like you, and when it comes down to the reality of tying our life to another person's, we get scared, too. "The idea of getting married completely freaked me out at first," says my friend Lisa, 34. "I know this sounds like a guy cliché, but I saw it as giving up my independence and being tied down." The good news is, once we're hitched, we're generally pretty delighted about it. Says Lisa, "Now that I am married, having a life commitment is so comforting and wonderful. I love knowing that we are a team and that we're going to be on the same team forever."

4. We may be modern and independent, but we still want you to be "the man."

We do want you to be sensitive, caring 21st-century males, but even the most ass-kicking, take-no-prisoners woman still wants to feel taken care of by her man somehow. Whether that means you take charge in bed, know how to fix the car and kill spiders, or even just carry the big suitcase when we're on vacation—when you act all manly, even if you're 98 pounds soaking wet, it makes us feel more feminine, more safe.

"I love that my friends and family always comment on how my husband opens the door for me and does all kinds of other chivalrous things—especially when I was pregnant, when he was so protective of me and my belly," says Lorraine, 29, of New Hartford, NY. "At the end of the day, being in his strong arms is definitely a good feeling, no matter how independent I know I am."

5. Our ex-boyfriends were not completely terrible in bed.

You know how we're always telling you things like, "No one does it like you do"? Um, yeah. Well, we may have been stretching the truth just a teensy bit. But we'll never actually tell you that a past lover was a bedroom dynamo—we're smarter than that. Just know that whatever toe-curling orgasms the other guy gave us, sex with you really is a million times better—because it's you, and you're the one we really want.

6. We're scared that we'll turn into our mothers.

We love our mothers, really. We admire them, we're grateful to them, we think they're the most amazing women on the planet. We just don't want to be them. That's why one of the worst insults you can hurl at a woman is, "You're acting just like your mother."

But here's one that's even worse: "You're acting just like my mother." It sends a horrible oedipal shiver down our spines—did he marry me because I'm like his mom? Will he start expecting me to cut the crusts off his PB&J? So please, if you value your sex life, never ever compare your wife to your mother. Out loud, anyway.

7. We want you to be jealous—but just a little bit.

We want you to notice—and care!—when the waiter flirts with us, or when other guys check us out on the street. It makes us feel that we matter to you. But please don't get all Neanderthal and possessive on us. "I'm very loyal, and if my guy can't understand that I would never do anything with anyone else, then that just makes me mad," says Paulina, 22, from Brooklyn. So, to recap: Raising your eyebrows when we introduce you to our cute coworker—good. Punching him out—very, very bad.

8. Yes, we fantasize about hot celebrity guys, but that doesn't mean we want you to be them.Christian Bale is sexy and all, but can you imagine having to clean that Batcave?

9. We tell our girlfriends more than we admit to you (but less than you fear).

Yes, we tell them about the latest marital spat, complain about our mothers-in-law, and sigh over the hobby that sucks up all your free time. But we don't tell them how big your you-know-what is or that you cried in our arms when your dad died. Some things are just too important and intimate to share. "I definitely don't tell my girlfriends details like what my husband said when he proposed, the feeling I have every time I see him look at our daughter, and the little wonderful things he does for me every day," says Lorraine. "Those are just for me."

10. We really do notice and appreciate all the chores you do.

Why don't we say so often enough? Because we can't get over all the things you don't do. My husband, for example, is incredibly diligent about keeping a 6-by-10-foot carpeted patch of our apartment vacuumed and cat hair–free, and I love that. But it kills me that it never occurs to him to dust the furniture sitting on top of that piece of carpet, or to sweep the hardwood floor adjoining it.

Blame our lack of positive feedback on that stubborn female belief that there is Only One Right Way to do any given household task—our way. It's probably the real reason why men don't shoulder a greater share of housekeeping duties; we complain about how you did it wrong, so you never want to do it again. (Sounds familiar, right?) Let's make a deal: You promise to dust the lampshade (or wipe down the kitchen counter after you wash the dishes, or take out the garbage and then put a new liner in the can) once in a while, and we promise to sing your praises.

Agreed?

11. We love you with all our hearts, but we still get wistful about the fact that we'll never feel that falling-in-love sizzle and spark again.

I'll just come right out and say it: Most women are love addicts. And while we appreciate the depth and richness of long-time love, there is simply nothing like the giddy, fluttery, crazy feeling we get (or rather, used to get) with a brand-new guy. We know we'll never feel that high again, and there's a little part of us that will always miss it. (Why do you think we watch so many romantic comedies?) But in the end, what we get instead—you, and a lifetime of true devotion—is more than worth the price.

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