The Five Mistakes Married Women Make

Here are five common financial mistakes married women make along with some advice on how to avoid them.

1. Mistake: Handing Over the Purse Strings
“Ignorance is not bliss,” says Patricia Powell, a CFP based in Martinsville, N.J. By not engaging in the family finances, women set themselves up for potential hardships. Powell says she has worked with at least two clients who managed their finances perfectly well while they were single, only to file for bankruptcy after they got married because of their husbands’ premarital debt and extravagant spending habits.

Solution: Pay Attention to the Household Finances
Both partners should attend the meetings with insurance agents, accountants, financial planners and lawyers, says Watchung, N.J.-based Kaye. Women should also look over monthly bank statements and credit-card bills. And Kaye recommends that couples make a list of all bank and brokerage accounts and insurance policies and keep it with other important documents, such as wills and medical directives.

2. Mistake: Losing Your (Financial) Identity

When Elizabeth Lundin (who asked that we not use her real name), now 33 years old, got married six years ago, her husband offered to take over the couple’s finances. She happily agreed. The couple merged all of their bank accounts, and Lundin even gave up her individual American Express card and started using a shared credit card.

Two years later, when the couple decided to divorce, Lundin learned that the couple’s credit card was actually held in her husband’s name, and that she was simply an authorized user. Her name was taken off that account, and she let many months go by before trying to secure credit in her name. When she tried, she found that her lack of an active credit history worked against her. She was offered only high-rate cards with small lines of credit.

According to Craig Watts, spokesman for Fair Isaac, the company that helps generate consumer FICO scores (the most common credit score used), the credit bureaus won’t calculate a score for an individual whose credit history has been inactive for six months or longer.

“[Recent] college graduates had an easier time securing credit than I did,” Lundin says. She says it took her two years to get a card with a competitive interest rate and sizable credit line.

Solution: Maintain Some Individual Accounts
“You always want to maintain your own credit identity,” says Lisa Caputo, president and CEO of Women & Co., a division of Citigroup. She recommends that couples keep three bank accounts (his, hers and ours) and maintain separate credit cards.

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3. Mistake: Walking Away From Your Career

The number of stay-at-home moms has increased by 15% over the past decade, according to 2003 U.S. Census data. While you might welcome the chance to stay home with your kids, the longer you’re out of the work force, the harder it can be to jump back in. Women often face lowball wages or lower job titles when they try to return to work after a long hiatus.

Solution: Keep Your Skills Fresh
It might be hard to do when you’re up to your eyeballs in dirty diapers, but unless you’re independently wealthy, you should always be aware that you might someday return to the work force for one reason or another. (Kids, after all, do grow up.)
So don’t lose touch completely. Try to take on consulting projects during your industry’s busy season and attend professional networking events.

Even charity work can give you a leg up when you start applying for a new job.

4. Mistake: Not Saving for Retirement
Many married women don’t make retirement-saving a priority. If the husband is the primary wage earner, the wife often trusts her spouse to save enough for their collective golden years, says Ginita Wall, a certified financial planner and co-founder of Women’s Institute for Financial Education, a San Diego-based nonprofit dedicated to educating women on finances. Compounding the problem, women are more likely than men to blow what little savings they have on something other than retirement. Nearly 25% of women who take a lump sum distribution from a retirement plan spend the money on general consumption, vs. 19% of men, according to the Employment Benefit Research Institute.

A woman spending her retirement savings is particularly distressing considering that women, on average, live six years longer than men.

Solution: Penny-Pinch Now for Your Future

Make saving for retirement a priority, says Women & Co.’s Caputo, even if it means stashing away less for your children’s college education. If you’re working, save as much as you can in your company’s retirement plan, or in an IRA. If you’re not employed, contribute to a spousal IRA, which has an annual contribution cap of $4,000 in 2005. Click here for more on these accounts.

5. Mistake: Asking for the House During a Divorce
When Borden separated from her husband, she decided her priority was to get custody of her two children. So she hired the best child custody lawyer she could find. Looking back, she says she now regrets her decision to focus on just one issue and wishes she had found a lawyer who had also looked out for her financial well-being. While she succeeded in getting custody of the kids, she is now struggling on the meager child-support payments her lawyer negotiated for her.

Borden’s story isn’t unusual. Women often focus so intently on winning custody of the children or keeping the house that they lose sight of the bigger financial picture, says’s Wall. On average, a woman’s standard of living decreases by 27% after divorce, according to Richard Peterson, of the Social Science Research Council.


When women are going through a divorce, they need to determine which assets will help them pay their bills and reach their long-term goals. Some women might want to consult a financial planner, says’s Wall. Too many women, says Wall, fight for the home to avoid uprooting their children, only to find that they don’t have the cash flow to pay for it.